Anybody ever heard that saying that goes something like this “your friend asks you if you’re okay when you trip and fall but your best friend calls you stupid and trips you again…”or something like that? Yeah well, I think that saying is total dog dookie. I’ve had the friend that tripped me again; and trust me, it doesn’t feel good.
Should friends Joke around? ABSOLUTELY. Be mean? Nope.
What does that have to do with anything, you ask? It has everything to do with this post!
A fitness accountability partner does not mean that they’re actually your workout buddy. I mean, it’s hard enough for spouses to even get on the same schedule let alone friend. A Fitness accountability partner means that you both have similar goals and are walking in the same direction –> a healthy lifestyle.
But first… Let’s be absolutely clear about one thing– this is not a post to bash your friend or person you’ve established as your partner. I know for me I’ve had a few people that simply weren’t as committed as I was and it didn’t help me grow or move forward and that was tough. This doesn’t mean you break up as friend, just know when it’s time to maybe find someone that CAN help you reach your goals. 🙂
How to know if your fitness partner is as committed as you are:
They’re Willing to Admit When They’ve Messed Up
This goes for you too! You both have to be comfortable enough to be able to admit when you’ve not been on track or when you’re not feeling the workout. Being able to have those hard conversations while still working towards your goals.
A fitness partner also doesn’t have to be on the same training plan as you are. It could be a coach. Let’s say you’re training for a 10k or you’re going on vacation in 10 weeks so you’re stepping up your game a bit; you could hire a coach who will help you along the way. Provide you with a plan, etc.
Main point is this, if your fitness partner is not helping you reach your goals then, it might be time to find another fitness partner! In other words, don’t be like this girl (my alter ego) who drags down her well meaning friend! At least her friend is willing to take her cookies away from her 🙂
They ask you the hard questions
I know that I am one that is not going to shy away from asking the hard questions, so in return, I would hope that my friend would be willing to ask me the hard questions as well!
Hard questions include things like the following:
- Have you eaten enough today? Or the flip side – Have you eaten too much today? and What did you eat?
- What was your workout today? If it’s a rest day, what did you do today to rest and recharge? Resting and recharging is so so so so important.
- How are you feeling? I know that doesn’t sound like a hard question, but this goes back to the fact that this question, asked by your partner can help you identify if you’re on the verge of burnout. There is a such thing as over training. This question requires a full answer and not just “fine”.
They do not use your weaknesses against you
Obviously my above video is a humorous take on this whole thing but it holds a point. My alter ego’s weakness is sweets and her friend is really trying to help her stay on track.
Staying on track does NOT mean that you deprive yourself. Remember the word balance, y’all. Okay?
This point goes back to what I said in the very first paragraph of my disagreement with the statement that best friends trip you again when you’ve fallen and you are trying to get back up. That quote is completely and utterly false. When your friend and fitness partner has fallen, and they’re struggling, you go pick them up, brush off the cookie crumbs and encourage her to try again.
That, my lovelies, is how you know if your fitness partner is as committed as you are. Bottom line? They love on you and you love on them! You help each other. You both will make mistakes but in the end, it’s how you handle the mistakes and the setbacks.
Healthy lifestyles are a journey and not a destination. You don’t just all of the sudden reach a point one day that you say “okay, y’all, I’ve made it! I am now a healthy lifestyle.” See? The sentence doesn’t even work.
A healthy lifestyle is daily small decisions that add up to big results.
Find your Fitness Partner
What if you don’t have a fitness partner and don’t have anyone that is willing to jump on the healthy lifestyle bandwagon with you? The biggest one that I suggest is to join a community that will be uplifting and you can depend on. I have a Facebook community that I started recently for girls that use my training plans and those that read and follow the blog!
My mom always told me growing up that to get a friend you have to be a friend. Be that friend and accountability partner that you want. Be willing to put in the work. You’ll be amazed at how close you can become to your friend. You will be able to talk about hard things.
You will have a complaining buddy when your muscles are so sore you have a hard time sitting on the toilet. #realtalk
You’ll also have a celebration buddy when you reach your goals and it’s time to create new goals. You can do this!
Be the friend that is so hard to find.