Have you ever had a dream… no, scratch that, have you ever had a goal? A goal so big that it actually scared you a little bit? This is a goal that you want so badly you can taste it, but you had/have absolutely no idea how to get there? Creating goals you can achieve sometimes seems impossible.
Over the course of my time as a coach, helping my mamas set goals that they can actually achieve has been my specialty.
This post is going to dive in way deep on creating goals you can achieve and how to create those actionable steps.
Here’s how this type of conversation typically goes.
You find a post on Pinterest telling you how to set goals, you click on the post, it tells you to dream big, then work really hard to get there and “never give up!”
Well, that’s all fine and good.
It sure gets you hyped up, but what happens when you don’t have logical, daily steps to get there? What happens when you get distracted? When being a mom takes over your life? Because, believe me, it will and that’s totally okay!
It’s all about taking steps to get there. Not having actionable steps is what gets in the way most often of mamas trying to reach goals.
I’m not talking about jumping off of a cliff face first into this giant goal and trying to do everything all at once.
One time, I saw a motivational speaker say “jump off the cliff and build your wings on the way down”.
Uh. Yeah, that’s not gonna work for me there, boy.
I’m going to need my wings at least started before I dive off of a cliff. My point is, there’s a difference between imperfect progress and being completely reckless.
But, let’s dive into how to set goals that you can achieve.
Creating Goals You Can Achieve Step #1 – Dream Big
Chances are, you’ve already done this part and you are not knowing what to do next.
However! Not clearly defining your goal(s) by writing them down and being as specific as possible might cause confusion later. Because, we’re human, we’re mamas… We’re busy, right?
Writing them down and posting them up on your mirror or taping them to your desk is huge. In fact, I love having a vision board. This board includes my crazy high lofty goals that will take years to get there, but they also include my goals that are more quickly attainable.
This process can be repeated for each of these goals. So, for now, brain dump all your dreams onto a piece of paper, and then pick one.
The biggest one that I work with is mamas who want to lose the rest of their postpartum weight. So, let’s take that one as our example.
Let’s say that you have 15 more pounds to lose before you reach your goal weight and you’ve hit a plateau.
You want to lose the rest of the baby weight and in the process learn how to keep it off so that you don’t do all of this hard work and then go right back to where you started.
Translation? Learning a new lifestyle. That’s your big goal.
Creating Goals You Can Achieve Step #2 – Visualize
While this step may seem trivial, don’t skip it. It’s super important to see how far we’ve come in regards to this goal we’re working towards, and how far we still have to go.
Think back to a year ago and where you were a year ago. Think about all the things that have happened within the past year.
What have you learned? What are the really good things that have happened? What are some things that have happened that aren’t so ideal?
All of those are important to reflect on. Because, sometimes when we’ve had a hard year, we typically focus on all the hard stuff that has happened instead of focusing on everything, both good and bad and how it all literally works together.
You can’t have good without the bad and vice versa.
Creating Goals You Can Achieve Step #3 – Know Your Why
Motivation is fleeting. You’re not going to feel motivated everyday. It is truly that simple. On Instagram, you will often see these girls that talk about motivation and staying motivated and just how motivated they are.
Well, I’m really fed up with the glitz and glamor that Instagram has turned out to be. That’s NOT REAL LIFE.
While there are some amazing accounts that address real issues and real fitness concerns, backed by science and studies (which is what I strive to do on my account and here), I would say that 95% of the accounts that I see are full of lies and deceit based on their appearance of constant motivation, their crazy bright filters and just overall not real life lives.
So, that said, I will say again. Motivation is fleeting and you will not be motivated everyday.
This is where discipline comes in. And discipline isn’t fun. How do we work through the discipline piece?
We know our why. You must define your why.
The why is the reason that you are working towards this goal. WHY are you doing what you’re doing?
The answer to “what in the world possessed you to take on this goal?” question.
Is it your awesome husband? How about your precious kiddos? Maybe it’s because you want to feel better about yourself in the bedroom or heck, even just feel better in your gym clothes.
All are amazing whys and believe me,
On the hardest of days, when you don’t want to do what you know you have to do, knowing that they’re counting on you and that they are your why will help you put one foot in front of the other and get done what you need to get done.
Creating Goals You Can Achieve Step #4 – Pick a Word
Another one that may seem trivial, but all of these tie together, I promise. Pick a word that you can write out and put it somewhere where you see it everyday.
I try to pick a new word every 90 days. For the first 90 days of this year, I picked “believe”.
While I do have fitness goals, they really are more along the lines of lifting more weight, more efficiently and pull ups.
I chose “believe” for the first 90 days because I believe that God called me to this to reach women and I believe that He will build it.
The next 90 days of the year, I chose a different word, etc.
Words that are chosen by you will be what you focus on. We’ll take the example of “believe”.
Focusing on believing in yourself and believing that you can do this and believing and trusting the process and that you will reach you goals!
Am I saying that we just believe and it will happen? Girl, no.
This isn’t a fairy tale; this is real life, mama. And in real life, we work for what we get.
Creating Goals You Can Achieve Step #5 –90 Day goals
Okay! Now that we have our great big goals, and our whys and our word that you’re going to focus on, it’s now time to break it down into bite size goals.
Let’s start with 90 days.
Take that great big goal and break it down into what you think you can accomplish within 90 days.
This is where it tends to get tricky, because if you’re like me, you will tend to think you can do more within a certain time frame than is actually even feasible to do.
So! Think about what is attainable within the next 90 days based on schedules, holidays, weight loss process, etc.
If your great big goal is to lose 25 pounds. A fantastic 90 day goal would be to shoot for losing about 10-15 pounds within 90 days.
Because, you will drop some water weight, then you’ll start working on losing the unwanted fat.
Make sense? You bet it does. Small steps, mama. Small steps.
Now! You’ve got your 90 day goals, which is awesome. But, goals are only as good as your action plan.
This means that you have to make weekly and daily tasks.
Creating Goals You Can Achieve Step #6 – Weekly and Daily Tasks
Believe me when I say that I completely understand the reality of schedule changes, especially with kiddos and demanding jobs.
The schedule can change at the drop of a hat.
This is where guarding your schedule comes in and saying no to things that aren’t within your top four priorities we talked about.
Looking at your schedule, start thinking of things that you can do every single day to work towards these goals.
You’ll want to make weekly tasks and daily tasks.
Example of daily tasks for weight loss –
Example of weekly tasks for weight loss –
Weigh in. Now, if you struggle with the number on the scale being something that you obsess about. I recommend that you only weigh every other week or even once per month.
Another example of a weekly task
Would be to weigh and meal prep all of your meals. It’s much easier to count on the daily if you prepare it ahead of time.
See? You’re doing great. You’ve actually finished the planning part!
It is now time to start DOING.
You’ve now finished creating goals you can achieve. Now is the time to take that step out in faith and start working towards those fitness goals.
Remember to always make sure that your doc has given you the thumbs up to start working out after having your baby. I’m a personal trainer and coach, not a doctor!
But once you’ve been cleared, it’s time to start doing.
Start taking those steps that you’ve lined out through the steps above and you will be WELL on your way to reaching those goals.
I know that it can be hard. Believe me, I’ve been there. I have literally been in your shoes. My pregnancy was super hard, I was sick constantly, my blood pressure was high, I gained over 60 pounds and I was a mess.
My first workout post pregnancy was a run.
Although, I’m pretty sure that I looked more like a dying horse struggling for air. It was pretty rough. But, the first step was the hardest. Each workout after that got better and better. Because I got stronger.
And so will you.
You will get stronger, faster, better, you keep putting in the work and doing the right things and it will come.
Learning new habits is hard. This is why I created the freebie below. It’s a clean up your diet in 5 days challenge. When we’re learning something new, it can be overwhelming and not really sure where to start. This free challenge gives you actionable steps each day to start your process towards learning new habits. I have found with my experience that starting with actionable ‘easy win’ steps is the best way to start a mama out on getting going towards her goals.
We like easy wins, right? RIGHT! Especially when we know this will be a journey and not a short sprint to a destination.
Don’t worry, I won’t spam you, I’ll just send you that .pdf and a few goodies. Then once a week I’ll send you a newsletter!